
Social media does not mean personal media
Posted by Don Packett under Rants , Web/Tech on December 6 2009 at 10:14 PMThis concept seems so simple, yet not many people get it. Let me explain:
Every person has a different theory as to why they participate in social media. Some to learn from others, some hoping to teach others, most to be the first person to share something before everybody else does, etc. The one thing is, though, that we don’t really understand each other’s ways of doing things, so we just go about treating everybody like they’re at the other end of our game, without realising that we’re also on the other end of theirs. And if you’re not acting appropriately on the other side of someone else’s game, the game isn’t really successful.
Another of these ‘ways to media socially’ are the people who feel that every single part of their lives should be shared with the world. It’s no secret that I want to famous, so when I’m out doing things like comedy or MC’ing or attending rad shit, I wanna tell people. Hell, I’ve even shared about my morning bowel movements once or twice. But when it comes to the serious stuff, the really personal business (yes, bowel movements are personal, but they’re a daily occurrence and they’re funny) then that sort of thing shouldn’t be shared online.

This kind of thing needs to be shared with friends, loved ones, people who take a keen interest in your life and would be there for you when you need it the most, not the 1000ish friends you have on Facebook or your hundreds of followers on Twitter. Yes, some of them may care, but do you really need to share it all?

These are two examples lifted off Lamebook, but I’ve seen these kinds of status updates in both my Facebook and Twitter feeds by people that I know personally. I understand that sometimes you need an outlet, a place to vent and share your frustrations, but before posting this stuff, always consider what you would have done before the boom of social media. Would you have taken out a newspaper front page headline? No. You would have picked up the phone, or met up with a mate and spoken about it, live, in person. Every ounce of me wants to reply saying it’s not cool, but every time I let it slide. I understand that I’m on the other end of your game and you expect me to just understand. Well no more.
If you want to post personal things online which clearly should be dealt with offline, I’ll let you know, for free, just ‘cos I’m a nice guy like that. You have to learn somehow. And if you think your mates are doing the same, let them know, it’ll make for a much better online social experience. Although, it may affect the gems that hit Lamebook. Ok, use your discretion. Awesome.
December 7th, 2009 at 9:34 am
Awesome article. I have read most of the Lamebook posts – and I can tell you that I have removed people for doing the: I love you, I love you, kiss, smootch baby baby blah – VOMIT. It is cool to want to have a personal chit chat with someone that you love, but on disgrace book, means that my wall and everyone else that is that persons friend – gets cluttered with miss spelt rubbish that is frustrating to read and even more painful to stomach. My RANT – Done
December 7th, 2009 at 10:06 am
That’s free advice that not too many people are listening to, Don.
Lamebook’s hilarious, and really sad, because it shows how drastically social media is changing the next generations’s perception of sharing and lifecasting.
They don’t know what it’s like NOT to share the totally inappropriate stuff, and that’s the scariest bit of it all.
December 7th, 2009 at 10:12 am
I personally don’t think that that type of post is appropriate, but I do think that those who post this stuff need to feel they can.
People in radio used to say If you don’t like what I am saying, change the station.
I think that that applies to social media too, in the end you want to be followed and to connect with people about whom you care and who care about the stuff you care about.
There is space for everyone and everybody’s tweets and status updates, but don’t expect me to follow them.
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